Women Formerly Known As "A Pleasure To Have In Class" Facing Challenges As Adults
These women were overachievers—gifted, creative, and high-performing students trying to find their place in adulthood. Although being an overachiever in school brought validation, it often becomes a disadvantage later in life.
Without a clear rulebook in adult life, they risk overwhelming themselves with too many responsibilities, leading to emotional exhaustion and stress. While their success in school came from following rules and navigating the system for praise, the adult world rewards qualities like flexibility, adaptability, and resourcefulness instead.
Common Struggles in Adulthood
- Learning to say “no” and setting boundaries
- Struggling with the need for external validation
- Breaking free from people-pleasing habits
- Managing emotional exhaustion from high expectations
They “found value, security, and even a little bit of personal identity in being praised for their work ethic and thoughtfulness, but now, as their responsibilities pile up, it’s impossible to give all of themselves to every single thing or person.”
These women are adjusting to the reality that adult life demands different skills and a balance that school achievements alone cannot guarantee.
Author's Summary
Women once praised as model students often face stress, emotional fatigue, and the challenge of redefining their identity beyond past academic success.